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Guest Author: Mr. PARMINDER DADHWAL

As a senior citizen, above 70 with a wife a few years younger, what do we look forward to for moving away from our current living in a plotted home.

First and foremost we want to simplify our lives and look at ourselves living more comfortable and stress free lives without the responsibility of looking after the maintenance of the infrastructure and utilities of our home.

The first priority will be to seek a home which has all the basic amenities that one has been used to and have sufficient space for us and family. The amenities should be available around the clock without any uncertainties.

The complex should have basic shopping facilities to cater to the majority day to day grocery needs of acceptable quality at reasonable prices. The basic maintenance of the apartment, electrical and plumbing, should be the responsibility of the developer, at a cost.

The complex should have a medical room where basic medical services could be provided . It will be comforting to know that an ambulance is available round the clock and a doctor on call. A general physician who conducts regular medical checks on residents ,who so desire, would be helpful.

Community areas where recreational group activity can be carried out will enhance the bonding with the other residents . It would be open to the residents to choose the activity they want to organise . Such activity should not have a commercial slant to it.

Reasonable amount of sports facilities should be available within the complex. A swimming pool , gymnasium, cards and billiards room would help in relaxing and keeping healthy and fit. Needless to say a walking soft walking track is a must.

The complex, through its architecture, land scaping, horticulture and colour combinations should convey a feeling of serenity and an unhurried way of life.

One of the biggest concerns in a plotted home is security. The complex should have multiple levels of security and entry into the complex, a block, or building should be capable of being tracked till the individual abodes. Security cameras and intrusion alarms should be capable of alerting the residents as well as the complex security personnel/system.

Guest Author: Col (R) V. K. Talwar. Past President Rotary Club of Gurgaon South City

Senior living is reclaiming one’s life and living it to the fullest with happiness and freedom. Aging gracefully with a lifestyle that is active, healthy, carefree, dignified and independent is a dream of many seniors. Its never too early or late to start planning as everyone is to enjoy it, when granted by the Almighty.

Senior living is about providing an environment and infrastructure where one can connect with himself, rekindle old passions and forge new bonds within a safe, inspiring and well managed environment.

The infrastructure of active senior living caters for safe construction especially for seniors… and may include amenities like open spaces, walking tracks, swimming pool, club house, 24/7 security, CCTV Cameras and it has to be wheelchair assessable.

On campus medical assistance with on call availability of a doctor would be minimal requirement. However for assisted living additional requirements like 24/7 Nursing and ambulance including opd services is a must requirement and physiotherapist on campus would be an additional requirement.

Guest Author: Col (R) Anil Alagh, Maverick in Love with Life. Gurgaon, India

Most senior citizens of our generations are unaware that COVID struck them between the 1990s to 2010 and NOT 2019. Surprised! Let me elucidate. It was in these 20 years or so that our tiny hatchlings, the apples of our eye, grew wings, wished to explore the distant land, sea and air, and we let them go. Some hatchlings flew away with our consent and blessings, others with our grudging goodbyes. But, they went!! Leaving our nests empty….taking their laughter, warmth, presence with them. We were isolated. Quarantined from a world we had nurtured for 20 years or more. Our Covid times had started.

With that as the preamble, some of us chose to become lonely brooding foggies….others made a wiser decision to celebrate a new freedom for ourselves. The essence of living is joy….and what is joy? We live in the fallacy that it comes from others….it doesn’t!!….it can only come from within and has to be created by one’s self. Some personal thoughts on how we can re-invent ourselves when age and our children overtake us, are shared….purely personal and hence not contestable:

• Joint Family. The days of huge families living amicably under one roof are over (not in the stupid TV soaps though). The Gen Y and the Gen N are born to live independently and have their own views and mind on personal and worldly relations and matters. Don’t contest that freedom of choice. They are not being uncaring or less respectful by choosing to stay independently. In fact you should encourage it, nurture it to remain positive, guide it when they need you. A happy child a 1000 kms away is much better than an angry suppressed one in the four walls of your house. A fortnight of holidays spent together as a family having fun, is better than a year of daily bickering and suppressed emotions lived together under one roof.

• Learn to enjoy your freedom. When was the last time you ate an ice cream or binged on something, which was not bought because your children liked it, but, because you fancied it when you were single or newly married. Go out and start re-living this new independence. It will bring great joy to you and your children. They want you happy too (much as you might feel they don’t care) and it will help them get rid of their “festival time” guilt of having left you alone. At least in 90% cases they will.

• Save up for a rainy day. Sure. Do that. But cut the crap of saving up for the children so that they can take a Scandinavian holiday on your money, after you kick the bucket. If you have done your duty as a good parent, they will work and earn enough to live happily. If they can’t, dependence on you and your “Will” will further destroy their self-esteem. So, enjoy your savings. Keep enough for a rainy day, never beg or borrow from your children, and foremost, never gift your house and livelihood to them in your lifetime. I do community service in an Old Age Home, believe me, half the abandoned senior citizens going through shit there, gifted everything to their kids in their life time, they were then found on the road during this life time.

• Hobbies. It is never too late to pick up one. Golf for the ones who can afford it, is the perfect blend of physical, emotional and mental exercise. Others can have their pool or card groups. Swimming, reading at the library, long walks with friends, writing memoirs, poetry, satire, all help keep sanity in place and loneliness away.

• The Plague and The Blessings. Avoid the plague. Count the blessings. Maintain 3 digit social distancing from folks who constantly give negative vibes about everything on earth. While some are perennial medical “farts” who talk of nothing other than ailments, new geriatric diseases, pills and more, others run down their own folks/community at the drop of a hat. Give them a “chill pill” and kick them out of your circle. Count your blessings. If destiny has given you enough to look after yourself, appreciate and enjoy it. If it hasn’t stop cribbing, it’s your own fault and destiny. The grass is actually never greener on the other side of the fence. If you can laugh, walk, eat without support at your age, you are truly blessed.

• Friends. You can either cough together or laugh together. The choice is yours to select an over-aged, grumpy, serious minded friends group or have an intermingled young and old, fun and frolic one. Age is never a bar to friendship. Choose some young company, Include some at least 5-10 years younger than you. Stay close to the old foggies who are mavericks. They ensure the spice in your lives.

• The Community Contact. With the children flown away and unable to be there for you due to time, distance and work commitments, only one category of people actually classify as your family. These are your friends and neighbors. Keep in touch. Reach out to each other. Visit and have tea together. Enjoy some occasional gossip. Keep a tab if someone is unwell or off the air for more than 48 hours. The community contact is an essential tool for our own well-being and happiness. Use it regularly.

• Company. You are grown up. Please avoid the blushes on this one. If single, whatever the reasons, look for company in the alternate sex. The emotional quotient of having a confidante of the opposite sex helps get things off your chest. It is balm for a lonely heart. I am not asking you to jump into bed….but do it if you wish….forget what people would say. The ones who cannot are the jealous ones who “say”. The real friends will feel happy and take your companion into their folds lovingly.

• Social Outreach. With so many grey hair or a bald pate on top, you have a world of knowledge, patience and human understanding inside you. Use it for some good. Adopt a charity. Go out and spend time in it. Use your financial and emotional stability or experiential knowledge to benefit others. Being a couch commentator on world affairs, etc. is passe. Get hands on with some social involvement. Not only will it extract 4-6 hours of your day in gainful pursuit, but give you huge emotional and personal satisfaction. It will keep you alive and ticking knowing that your presence and your vast knowledge still matter and you can still make a “difference” nurturing young minds or bringing solace to the disturbed ones. If animal friendly, seva in an animal shelter or gaushala to the best of your physical capability is also an option.

The choice to become self-condescending old dowagers or remain vibrant, active and “alive” humans is ours. Age is never a barrier. The heart and mind is. You had an attitude when young, get a new one if you lost it. Get bindaas. With one leg in the grave, live each day not just for yourself but for your other senior citizen friends and the environment. Remember nobody will give a damn 4 weeks after you are dead. In cases who didn’t like what I have written above, it will be less than 4 weeks. Learn to bug and needle people who mess with you. Cozy up to the ones you have your hearts on. At our age, dementia and deafness is a plausible excuse when some comments rebound. Enjoy that double D gift !!

By Guest Blogger Kapila Jain.

After coming out to be “winner in life”, what all is needed to endure more happiness and success. Is it money, relationships, professional heights, simply pursuing your passions or may be doing nothing but still in contentment? Every senior has its own goals and dreams. The painting on the canvas done by the individual comes with different shapes and colors.

One should live with a spirit where each day looks like a new and fresh opportunity. Where one feels “life has started” and now its time where his beginning could be spiritual, professional, or any hobby that one always wanted to pursue all these years. Many people feel unhappy and isolated as they think about diminishing importance being given to them and their opinion, but everything depends on the perspective of taking things.

The universe has wide options for everyone at every phase of life, it’s just how you understand the basic principles of life and follow them religiously. So the mantra to live and age gracefully is to “Never ever say iam Ageing” as we don’t age with increasing years its only our thoughts and lifestyle that make us aged.

You can be as old as 60 at the age of 20 too. Hence just focus on health, good diet, exercise, accompany cheerful people with never dying attitude. Invest in your health, adopt preventive and active healthcare measures for monitoring and analyzing your health conditions. We are living in a generation where things are easier and accessible with fewer dependencies.

Money always plays a vital role in making one’s life more comfortable and enjoyable, never ever spend money beyond your means for even your children. Invest time on yourself and your spouse and live a harmonious and luxurious lifestyle. Keep yourself secure and all your accumulated wealth can always be a reason for a comfortable, joyous lifestyle.

Relaxing and recreating is another important aspect of these years, rather than thinking about your children and grandchildren, start embracing changes in the most optimistic manner. Change is inevitable, so start accepting the truth of life with inner peace.

It reminds me of saying “Getting old is mandatory, acting old is optional” so why not live and welcome your retiring years with this simple yet powerful thought. And we need to be thankful that the enriched culture of senior living is more empowered and spreading as a boon. Hence, the idea of senior community living is widely accepted as people want to live in their own ecosystem without the pressure of compromising with or intruding into their children’s lives.

Senior Living

As we are moving to the transformed world, everything is changing around us the thinking process, the technology, the living style etc. Everyone is adopting comfort luxury and choosing a lifestyle that eases their need. The youth today are gifting their parents a comfort style of living, and the seniors themselves, having abundance of wealth are investing in comfort living luxury homes. They choose autonomy and camaraderie of likeminded people in their golden age.

Hence the new era amidst of COVID has been catalyst in changing the way people used to think , they are now looking for places which makes them feel more secure and safe. Especially the arise of senior living home cannot be overlooked.

How is is this becoming a trend setter in todays time?

Well the answer is simple, 20 years ago India was not culturally ready to have their senior parents live separately but looking at circumstances, where children are moving to different parts of state and various countries for their careers, the rise of such independent style of living has increased.

Also, a senior who has been a achiever throughout his life, will always choose ways to achieve nothing less in his golden years.

NRIs and HNIs are even demanding luxury homes equipped with all the possible amenities for a convenient living.

Why to choose this lifestyle?

“Being Healthy is being Happy” and happiness comes when you get what your heart desires. Built with keeping, Mental Health, Physical well being, Emotional Well Being, Psychological well being and Professional Growth. Preventive and Active health care has been the need of the hour. When you get home monitoring devices which enables you to intervene earlier respond to health issues in a much better manner. Covering all the three major steps include in preventive health care is kept in mind. Senior Community living is desirable destination in your sunset years. Apart from health care benefits you have all practical solutions to all the facilities required. With assisted care for the ailing, medical attendants, tie up with nearby hospitals, emergency responses etc.

Apart from this all your holistic and professional development like hobby clubs, yoga and mediation centre, spa zones, meeting halls not feeling deprived of any such service which enhances your golden years.

Maintainance housekeeping and food has been taking most of our time and energy. These essentials have to be controlled and managed smoothly. Getting all these under one roof becomes a dream come true.